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48 hours and counting

Wednesday, November 02, 2005

Exactly 48 hours from now I will be legally severed from my STBX. I am very happy about this. But, here's an 'etiquette' question...what the heck do I do with all the stuff from our wedding? I'm sure my kids will want it one day. Or maybe not. My rings, my dress, the pictures? Do I just box them up and put them in the attic? Do I ask STBX for his ring to put with all the stuff? Someone needs to write a divorce guide...

11/02/2005 09:00:00 AM :: ::
  • I would do all of the above. Your kids probably will want to see the pictures, rings and the gown one day. Up in the attic will be out of sight and out of mind. That's a good thing for you.

    By Blogger DeeJay, at 11/02/2005 09:16:00 AM


  • Keep it for your kids. They will want it. STBX can save the ring for them if he wants, but let him make that decision.

    I say this as someone with divorced parents!

    By Blogger Suburban Turmoil, at 11/02/2005 09:17:00 AM


  • Keep the rings, and some sample photos, maybe the dress if lil-lassette wants it someday. Burn the letters and a few well chosen pictures, burn incence, and dance around naked in a cleansing ceremony. Then have ice-cream.

    By Blogger Coyote Mike, at 11/02/2005 10:22:00 AM


  • Yeah, I'd say keep it, in case they decide they want it one day. You can always trash it later, but you can't bring it back.

    By Blogger Bone, at 11/02/2005 10:30:00 AM


  • You could find someone to put a curse on the ring and give it back to him, then have all his hair fall out and his genitals shrivel up into little raisins. Or is that what went wrong in the first place? :P

    By Blogger Coyote Mike, at 11/02/2005 12:43:00 PM


  • That's a tough call. It depends on if you need the cash that selling all the stuff could offer. Also if you don't have enough storage space for all the junk then some of it will have to go. If it means enough to you and the children and you have space for it you won't regret keeping it.

    By Blogger mman, at 11/02/2005 01:12:00 PM


  • I think the other commenters made some good points. Your kids might want to see these things some day, especially the pictures and wedding momentos.

    But I'm of two minds about the rings and the dress. Unless the dress was a family heirloom or was custom made..(or you absolutely must save it), i'd sell it or donate it.

    See, I had always thought i'd save my dress for my daughters to wear, but now there are so many dresses on the market that are even more beautiful than the one I had. My dress was gorgeous... for 1983. I want my girls to have one of their own, that "fits" their personality. Just another thought!

    As for the rings, another option is to have them made into some other type of jewlery, perhaps for your kids!
    would they feel weird about being given the actual rings that their divorced parents once wore? it's another thing to think about too.

    I realize not everyone would agree with this and I'd respect your viewpoints. Just something to think about! :)

    By Anonymous Laura, at 11/02/2005 01:42:00 PM


  • Interesting question. I never thought of that before.

    I, being the anti-packrat that I am, would donate the gown to Goodwill (unless you really think your daughter might want to use it), pawn the rings, and just save a few photos.

    ...And then, yeah, a good cleansing ceremony...

    By Anonymous abbynormal, at 11/02/2005 01:43:00 PM


  • My in-laws are divorced. When we got married, my MIL gave me all her wedding photos. I say keep whatever you can for the kids, and their spouses.

    By Blogger Indigo, at 11/02/2005 02:17:00 PM


  • My mom boxed up all her stuff from my parents divorce and we were free to have it when we were old enough. I think that is great idea. I would bring it up with your ex about the ring. I would have love to have my dad's ring too.

    By Blogger mommy d, at 11/02/2005 05:57:00 PM


  • I agree with Laura. Unless the dress is an heirloom, why put your daughter in the precarious position of choosing between hurting your feelings if she says no and picking out her own gown?

    Maybe you could donate the dress to a hurricane victim who was getting married but lost everything.

    The ring... I dunno. FIle it away and maybe you'll have a use for it someday, such as melting it down or trading it in.

    After that, I think consuming copious amounts of tasty adult beverages would be in order.

    By Blogger FTS, at 11/02/2005 05:58:00 PM


  • 1. Burn the dress.

    2. Reset the diamonds

    3. Sell the bands and buy the kids chemestry sets so they can blow stuff up. Or, to finance a weekend away for you and superboy.

    4. Hold onto some of the pictures for the kids, but I still say to burn alot of them. Definatly the wedding album. Its your life, and your kids can learn to live with you moving on.

    5. Come to Nebraska for a wild romp of marathon hoohaa tickling.

    6. Wear glasses cuz I think you would have a sexy librarian look going on. I know it has nothing to do with anything, but its still a good suggestion.

    By Blogger Coyote Mike, at 11/02/2005 10:21:00 PM


  • You could be uber-ethical and donate dress and ring to charity. (Not really sure what happened to my own ring in the end)

    By Blogger culfy, at 11/03/2005 04:29:00 AM


  • Have the ring re-set and do whatever suits you with the dress. I have no idea where mine is, probably in the basement storage room. I too think my daughter should wear a dress that is her "style". I have been thinking for weeks about finding mine and donating it. The only problem with that is maybe in donating it we send the bad kharma of the marriage to someone else. LOL

    By Anonymous TSB, at 11/03/2005 07:09:00 AM


  • I'm back. (I'm a pest!)
    (but there's no rule on the site that one can only comment once!)

    Coyote's comment cracked me up.. LOL.

    Anyway, I realized last night, when the thought about this post drifted in my mind for some odd reason... (my mind is slow to respond sometimes. very slow),

    My hub's aunt had 5 daughters. She's 70something now. Anyway, she took her old wedding dress out at halloween one year and gave it to the girls. She told me that over the years, they turned that dress into all sorts of costumes, and dyed it several colors as well. It was black for halloween more often then she could count.
    Just one last thought!

    btw, I like FTS's suggestion about donating it to hurricane victims too!

    By Anonymous Laura again, at 11/03/2005 07:19:00 AM


  • I gave my oldest daughter my wedding band already. The pictures and such were split up between the ex and I. I only have a few from the wedding ceremony (Justice of the peace) left.

    By Blogger Texas_Ivy10, at 11/03/2005 10:02:00 AM


  • Yall are a lot nicer than I am, and there were no kids involved, but I got rid of EVERYTHING. (My Mom may have one pic left that I would toss if I could just find it)
    Sell the jewelry on Ebay with a funny, sad story about what a jerk the ex is-was. Then give the kids the money.

    By Blogger whitesgem, at 11/03/2005 12:08:00 PM


  • I have all the shit upstairs in a giant tupperware storage box. In the attic. If it gets in my way I might toss it but right now, out of sight - out of mind.

    By Blogger MarkD60, at 11/03/2005 04:45:00 PM


  • I am going to do the same as markd60

    By Blogger Dorman, at 11/03/2005 05:15:00 PM


  • For your NaNo thing you should have written the divorce guide....make it up as you go along...

    By Blogger Shannon, at 11/04/2005 11:03:00 AM


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